My nephew recently shared this video to Facebook and it really hit home for me. We live in a day and age where it’s always important to share the best of the best. I am guilty of doing this, but I always will try to make a conscious effort to share things that we are struggling with as well.
My biggest job in life is to make sure that I raise hard working, compassionate, thoughtful and loving boys. If they don’t make good grades but worked really damn hard, that is ok. If they gave 100% on the field but didn’t win, that’s ok. If they don’t want to play sports and want to be on the robotics team, that’s ok. If they don’t want to go to college and pick up a trade, that’s ok. I want them to know that money isn’t everything and the real impact that you have on someone’s life is the memories that you leave them with. Money doesn’t matter, memories do.
When my mom passed, the one thing that touched my heart the most were the ladies who came up to us during her quick stay in hospice and at her funeral. Those ladies came up and hugged us and let us know that my mama took them under her wing. They were the new kids in school, they didn’t have any friends and my mom took them under her wing and became friends with them. Some of those ladies she kept in contact with on and off for years, another she reconnected with closer to the end of her illness. That is the impact that I want to leave on this earth and pass onto my boys. To always be kind, to treat others how they want to be treated. That you can be inclusive and be apart of more than one group. That even though you may be friends for a short season, you left that person with a kind impression of yourself.
Money, trophies and popularity won’t be what you are remembered for. It is nice to celebrate these moments but they won’t be what you are most remembered for. Trophies are nice in the moment, but then they collect dust in the attic. Be the one that is remembered for being kind, being compassionate and being inclusive. You never know what the other person is going through. This is my biggest job and I can only hope that when they fly out of the nest, they soar.